Honouring Your Family

I’d like to start by saying, honour your parents by spending as much time with them as you can while you still can.

There will come a day when you can’t go have a cuppa with them and you’ll wish you made more time for them while you were able to. 

I still remember that first time I thought I might pop over to mums, only to have the reality of her not being here anymore wash over me. 

This feels very dear to my heart at the moment because while I write this I’m sharing a gorgeous 3 week holiday with my 4 beautiful children, their wonderful partners and my incredible grandchildren and it’s the most precious time of my life. 

These are the memories that we all should strive for. 

I’m so grateful they all gave me this time, not only to show me how much they love and appreciate what we share, but also because they know that there’s nothing I want more in this world than to spend time with them. 

Encouraging my children to grow up close to each other and myself meant the world to me and the bond we share is like no other. 

My parents were 42 & 47 when I was born, so I was raised completely different to how I encouraged my children to grow up. I always wished my parents were more engaged in my life, I’m not sure if it was their age, how they were raised or if they just weren’t really the maternal, paternal type. 

There was a time in my life that unless I went to see them, my children would have only seen their grandparents on special occasions and we all only lived 5 minutes from each other. 

I helped both of them to transition from this world during the last ten years and I wouldn’t change that time for the world. It gave both them and myself the opportunity to share our feelings openly for probably the first time in my life. However, I can’t help but wish we were closer earlier in my life. We could have shared so much more together. 

I know life is busy and it’s easy to get distracted, but your family and the ones you love deserve your undivided attention.

Don’t let time slip away, make every moment count. 

LET YOUR CHILDREN KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM

As full as my life has been, every moment of the last 27 years of my life as a parent has been the most rewarding.

Through nappy changes, sleepless nights, footy trips, dance rehearsals and concerts and my front door being open to anyone who ventured in, it has been exhausting but the best ride of my life. 

They say you don’t realise how much you’ll love your children until they’re born, but I think I came into this world ready to be their mother and to love them wholeheartedly and unconditionally till the day I die.

My children are my everything and everyone who knows us knows that. 

But if for whatever reason your relationship is strained, it can always be repaired if you’re prepared to put the energy in to change it. 

As I shared earlier, the family I was born into wasn’t close like mine, so I understand the pain of wanting more. 

I want to encourage parents who aren’t close with their children to reach out and let them know you’re thinking of them. Perhaps offer to look after your grandchild so they can have a date night or invite them over for a BBQ. Anything to encourage the lines of communication to stay open. Believe me when I say the longer you leave it, the harder it becomes.

The more energy you weave into the lives of your children, the more fruitful your family tree will become. 

My adult children don’t have any idea how much energy I weave into their lives all from the comfort of my bed or the couch. Shifting the energy that is stagnant in a relationship doesn’t have to mean you’re in each other’s pockets, you just need to transform the energy by focusing your energy on what the future version of yourselves desires. 

When I look back at some of the things that I said to my mother when I was a teenager, I cringe and I still to this day, ask her for forgiveness. Even though she may not physically be here, her soul still lives on and I am energetically repairing the past to allow change to ripple forward into the future. 

Teenagers can be volatile and thoughtless to their parents, but patience and love are the two things that will mend the broken pieces of any family.

YOU CHOSE YOUR PARENTS 

Even though there may be times that your parents are challenging you, you chose them long before you were even born.

Then you entered this world from your mother’s wombs, completely reliant on them and trusting their love for you will guide them. 

It’s through us being born that they learn the art of true unconditional love and sacrifice. 

They took on all of the responsibilities of looking after us and let’s face it, we probably drove them crazy as we grew up, but they continued to give us love and guidance as well as the never-ending task of driving us to and from all of our after school activities and catch-ups with friends. 

So it isn’t too much to say honouring our parents begins with being thankful for them.

Even though my parents have now passed, I remember feeling the overwhelm of trying to be there for both my parents and my children when they needed me.

My children were teenagers during the time in my life when I was caring for my mother for her last seven months, then a couple of years later when my fathers partner died and I took on caring for him for his last three and a half years. I was needed in every direction and at times I felt everyone was only getting a portion of what they really needed. 

A way we can honour our parents and children is to connect with them energetically. Some may call this praying for them, I like to think of it as weaving energy into their field.

This is something I do often that doesn’t intrude on their sovereignty yet works more like an energetic support system. 

The most effective way is by allowing yourself to energetically move into the future to weave the field that serves all concerned and then move the energy back to a place it may have been needed the most and allow the energy shift to ripple out multi-dimensionally. 

Weaving a field can be helpful for physical ailments, emotional or mental support, help in a relationship or even just to provide support with guidance on the path that is meant for all concerned. 

HONOURING YOURSELF

The final piece of the puzzle is honouring yourself. Knowing what you desire and putting it out to the Universe. For me, the 3 words that have always rung true are Love, Family, Unity. 

Discovering what lights you up and makes your heart sing is the most important part of your journey in this lifetime. 

It’s easy as we all know to get distracted in the busyness of life, but honouring the things that are important will allow the correct flow of energy to align with you. 

If you’re in a state of uncertainty, sitting or lying still and connecting with nature, the Universe and the internal beat of your soul will help to guide you home. 

Here are a few simple ways to reconnect with what is truly important to you:

Come back to your body

When we feel stressed or out of control in our lives, we can escape our bodies and turn on autopilot mode.

This is when our fight or flight response is activated and we are in reactive mode.

The quickest and simplest way to start moving into a place where we can find some peace and start to see more options ahead of us is through embodiment.

Commit to connecting to yourself

When I was first starting out on my healing journey, coming back to myself was one of the most effective practices I started to commit to. It helped me to be with all parts of myself and see where I was being unkind or neglecting myself. Just observing without judgement.

This one simple practice reminded me who I was outside of all the roles I fulfilled in the world for everyone else. It allowed me space to just work out who I truly was, without rules or restrictions.

Practice surrendering

In energy and soul medicine, we talk a lot about the art of surrendering, but this has become a bit of a buzzword that may not make sense to everyone. This is as simple as:

× Acknowledge that moment when you realise everything is feeling a bit much and stop.

× Stop and just be in that moment.

× Feel the emotions and sensations moving through you and let them be.

× Take a few deep breaths.

As you inhale, allow new energy to enter your body. Let it fill you up. Allow that breath to go right out into your fingers and down into your toes. Feel the way your body feels when you draw new energy in. Alive and vibrant.

And as you exhale, release the energy that no longer serves you. Allow it to flow out of your body with love and gratitude for all that it has done for you. Allow it to go back to Mother Earth, so she can cleanse it and breathe new life into it.

Allow every cell of your body to feel cleansed and rejuvenated.

Releasing stale stagnant energy is extremely beneficial to your body, if you don’t, it gets stuck and causes blockages in your body which down the track will be a lot harder to remove than with a single breath.

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